Quotes from and saying about one of the wisest men in Chinese history, an almost mythological figure. Confucius believed that if we properly managed our external relationships, our internal development would also progress, and from the sense that the characteristics and qualities necessary to properly manage external relationships, in his view, are the very foundations of what many would consider to be good character.
Relatively short read, but chock full of worthwhile considerations and things to reflect upon.
Various quotes that resonated:
โThe nobler type of man is broad-minded and not prejudiced. The inferior man is prejudiced and not broad-minded.โ
โLearning without thinking is useless. Thinking without learning is dangerous.โ
โShall I teach you the meaning of knowledge? When you know a thing to recognize that you know it; and when you do not, to know that you do not know, – that is knowledge.โ
โWhen Chi Kโang asked how to inspire the people with respect and loyalty, so that they might be mutually emulous (for the welfare of the state), the Master said: โLead them with dignity and they will also be dutiful; be filial and kind and they will be loyal; promote those who excel and teach the incompetent, and they will encourage each other.โ
โTo see the right and not do it is cowardice.โ
โThe wise man in his attitude towards the world has neither predilections not prejudices. He is on the side of what is right.โ
โThe man of honour thinks of his character, the inferior man of his position. The man of honour desires justice, the inferior man favour.โ
โWhen you see a man of worth, think how to rise to his level. When you see an unworthy man, then look within and examine yourself.โ
โThe wise man desires to be slow to speak but quick to act.โ
โVirtue never dwells alone; it always has neighbours.โ
โIt is all in vain! I have never yet seen a man who could perceive his own faults and bring the charge home against himself.โ
โHe who knows the truth is not equal to him who loves it, and he who loves it is not equal to him who delights in it.โ
โFor the philanthropist is one who desiring to maintain himself sustains others, and desiring to develop himself develops others. To be able from oneโs own self to draw a parallel for the treatment of others – that may be called on the rule of philanthropy.โย
โFix your mind on the right way; hold fast to it in your moral character; follow it up in kindness to others; take your recreation in the polite arts.โย
โThere are men, probably, who do things correctly without knowing the reason why, but I am not like that: I hear much, select the good and follow it; I see much and treasure it up. This is the next best thing to philosophical knowledge.โ
โThe noble man is calm and serene, the inferior man is continually worried and anxious.โ
โThe Master was affable yet dignified, commanding yet not overbearing, courteous yet easy.โ
โCourtesy uncontrolled by the laws of good taste becomes laboured effort, caution uncontrolled becomes timidity, boldness uncontrolled becomes recklessness, and frankness uncontrolled becomes effrontery. When the highly placed pay generous regard to their own families, the people are equally stirred to kindness, When they do not discard old dependents, neither will the people deal meanly with theirs.โ
โLearn as if you were not reaching your goal, and as though you were afraid of missing it.โ
โAm I indeed a man with innate knowledge? I have no such knowledge; but when an uncultivated person, in all simplicity, comes to me with a question, I thrash out its pros and cons until I fathom it.โ
โI have never yet seen a man whose love of virtue equalled his love of women.โ
โCan any one refuse assent to words of just admonition? But it is amendment that is of value. Can any one be otherwise than pleased with advice persuasively offered? But it is the application that is of value. Mere interest without application, mere assent without amendment, – I can do nothing whatever with men of such calibre.โ
โMake conscientiousness and sincerity your leading principles. Have no friends inferior to yourself. And when in the wrong, do not hesitate to amend.โ
โWhen Chi Lu asked about his duty to the spirits the Master replied: โWhile still unable to do your duty to the living, how can you do your duty to the dead? When he ventured to ask about death, Confucius answered: โNot yet understanding life, how can you understand death?โ
โTo go beyond the mark..is as bad as to come short of it.โ
โWhen Ssลญ-ma Niu asked for a definition of the man of noble mind, the Master said: โThe man of noble mind has neither anxiety nor fear.โ โNeither anxiety nor fear!โ he rejoined. โIs this the definition of a noble man?โ โOn searching within,โ replied the Master, โhe finds no chronic ill, so why should he be anxious or why should he be afraid?โ
โIf the people enjoy plenty,โ was the rejoinder, โwith whom will the prince share want? But if the people are in want, with whom will the prince share plenty?โ
โTake conscientiousness and sincerity as your ruling principle, submit also your mind to right conditions, and your character will improve.โ
โThe man of noble mind seeks to achieve the good in others and not their evil. The little-minded man is the reverse of this.โ
โOnce when Fan Chโih asked the meaning of virtue, the Master replied, โLove your fellow men.โ On his asking the meaning of knowledge, the Master said: โKnow your fellow men.โ
โโBy promoting the straight and degrading the crooked you can make even the crooked straight.โ
โOn Tzลญ Kung inquiring the duties to a friend, the Master replied: โAdvise him conscientiously and guide him discreetly. If he be unwilling, then cease; do not court humiliation.โ
โThe wise man by his culture gathers his friends, and by his friends develops his goodness of character.โ
โWhen Chung Kung was minister for the House of Chi he asked for advice on the art of government, whereupon the Master said: โUtilize first and foremost your subordinate officers, overlook their minor errors, and promote those who are worthy and capable.โ
โWhatever a wise man states he can always define, and what he so defines, he can always carry into practice; for the wise man will on no account have anything remiss in his definitions.โ
โWhen the Master was travelling to Wei, Jan Yu drove him. โWhat a numerous population!โ remarked the Master. โThe people having grown so numerous, what should be done for them?โ Asked Jan Yu. โEnrich them,โ was the reply. โAnd when you have enriched them, what next should be done?โ he asked. โEducate them,โ was the answer.โ
โWhen the Duke of Shรช asked the meaning of good government, the Master answered: โThe near are happy and the distant attracted.โย
โDo not be in a hurry; do not be intent on minor advantages. When one is in a hurry, nothing is thorough; and when one is intent on minor advantages, nothing great is accomplished.โ
โThe true gentleman is friendly but not familiar; the inferior man is familiar but not friendly.โ
โThe true gentleman is easy to serve, yet difficult to please. If you attempt to please him in any improper way, he will be displeased; but when it comes to appointing men in their work, he has regard to their capacity. The inferior man is hard to serve, yet easy to please. If you attempt to please him, even in an improper way, he will be pleased; but in appointing men their work, he expects him to be fit for everything.โ
โThe firm of spirit, the resolute in character, the simple in manner, and the slow of speech are not far from virtue.โ
โThe Master said: โThe scholar whose regard is his comfort is unworthy to be deemed a scholar.โ
โA man of principle is sure to have something good to say, but he who has something good to say is not necessarily a man of principle. A virtuous man is sure to be courageous, but a courageous man is not necessarily a man of virtue.โ
โTo be poor and not complain is difficult; to be rich and not arrogant is easy.โ
โHe who speaks without modesty will perform with difficulty.โ
โThe progress of the nobler-minded man is upwards, the progress of the inferior man is downwards.โ
โThe men of old studied for the sake of self-improvement; the men of the present day study for the approbation of others.โ
โThe higher type of man is modest in what he says, but surpasses in what he does.โ
โA wise man is not distressed that people do not know him; he is distressed at his own lack of ability.โ
โIs not he a man of real worth who does not anticipate deceit nor imagine that people will doubt his word; and yet who has immediate perception thereof when present?โ
โA good horse is not praised for its strength but for its character.โ
โ1. Someone asked: โWhat do you think about the principle of rewarding enmity with kindness?โ 2. โWith what, then, would you reward kindness?โ asked the Master. 3. โReward enmity with just treatment, and kindness with kindness.โโ
โNot to enlighten one who can be enlightened is to waste a man; to enlighten one who cannot be enlightened is to waste words. The intelligent man neither wastes his man nor his words.โ
โHe who demands much from himself and little from others will avoid resentment.โ
โIf a man does not ask himself, โWhat am I to make of this?โ โWhat am I to make of that?โ – there is nothing whatever I can make of him.โ
โThe noble man seeks what he wants in himself; the inferior man seeks it from othersโ
โThe wise man does not appreciate a man because of what he says; nor does he depreciate what he says because of the man.โ
โIs there any one wordโ, asked Tzลญ Kung, โwhich could be adopted as a lifelong rule of conduct? The Master replied: โIs not Sympathy the word? Do not do to others what you would not like yourself.โ
โPlausible words confound morals, and a trifling impatience may confound a great project.โ
โA man can enlarge his principles; it is not his principles that enlarge the man.โ
โTo err and not reform may indeed be called error.โ
โA man of the higher type may not be distinguishable in minor responsibilities, but he can undertake great ones. An inferior man cannot undertake great responsibilities, but may be distinguished in minor ones.โ
โThe wise man is intelligently, not blindly, loyal.โ
โIn teaching there should be no class distinctions.โ
โThere are three kinds of friends that are beneficial, and three that are harmful. To make friends with the upright, with the faithful, with the well-informed, is beneficial. To make friends with the plausible, with the insinuating, with the glib, is harmful.โ
โThere are three ways of pleasure-seeking that are beneficial, and there are three that are harmful. To seek pleasure in the refinements of manners and music, to seek pleasure in discussing the excellence of others, to seek pleasure in making man worthy friends – these are beneficial. To seek pleasure in unbridled enjoyment, to seek pleasure in looseness and gadding, to seek pleasure in conviviality – these are harmful.โ
โThe wise man has nine points of thoughtful care. In looking, his care is to observe distinctly; in listening, his care is to apprehend clearly; in his appearance, his care is to be kindly; in his manner, his care is to be courteous; in speaking, his care is to be conscientious; in his duties, his care is to be earnest; in doubt, his care is to seek information; in anger, he has a care for the consequences; and when he has opportunity for gain, his care is whether it be right.โ
โBy nature men nearly resemble each other; in practice they grow wide apart.โ
โIt is only the very wisest and the very stupidest who never change.โ
โTo be able everywhere one goes to carry five things into practice constitutes Virtue.โ They are courtesy, magnanimity, sincerity, earnestness, and kindness. With courtesy you will avoid insult, with magnanimity you will win all, with sincerity men will trust you, with earnestness you will have success, and with kindness you will be well fitted to command others.โ
โThe Master said: โYu, have you ever heard of the six good words and the six things that obscure them?โ โNever,โ was the reply.
โSit down then, and I will tell you. Love of kindness, without a love to learn, finds itself obscured by foolishness. Love of knowledge, without a love to learn, finds itself obscured by loose speculation. Love of honesty, without a love to learn, finds itself obscured by harmful candour. Love of straightforwardness, without a love to learn, finds itself obscured by misdirected judgement. Love of daring, without a love to learn, finds itself obscured by insubordination. And love for strength of character, without a love to learn, finds itself obscured by intractability.โย
โ’These servile fellows!โ said the Master. โHow is it possible to serve oneโs prince along with them? Before obtaining their position they are in anxiety to obtain it, and when they have it they are in anxiety lest they lose it. And if men are in anxiety about losing their position, there is no length to which they will not go.โย
โArtful address and an insinuating demeanour seldom accompany virtue.โ
โIf a man possess virtue without its enlarging him, if he believe in truth but without steadfastness, how can you tell whether he has these qualities or not?โ
โA wise man honours the worthy and tolerates all; he commends the good and commiserates the incompetent. Am I a man of exceptional worth? Then whom among men may I not tolerate? Am I not a man of worth? Then others would be turning me away. Why should there be this turning of others away then?โ
โTzลญ Hsia said: โBroad culture and a steady will, earnest investigation and personal reflection, – virtue is to be found therein.โ
โTzลญ Hsia said: โThe inferior man always embellishes his mistakes.โ
โThe Wise Man varies from three aspects. Seen from a distance he appears stern; when approached he proves gracious; as you listen to him you find him decided in opinion.โ
โThough a man may never before have shown what was in him, surely he will do so when he mourns his parents.โ
โTzลญ Kung said: โThe transgressions of the Wise Men are like eclipse of the sun or the moon. When he transgresses all men look at him. When he recovers all men look up to him.โ